Being an Example
Actions speak louder than words. This is a great truth for all to remember. It is especially important for parents, as children want to learn and are very watchful of a parent’s every action and listen carefully to all that is spoken. They are learning.
"My father didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it.” Clarence B. Kelland
It is so important for fathers to be involved with their children because they are role models. They are a part of the future. Typically, one thinks of a father as a provider, to ensure that a child is protected and that all basic needs are met. However, fathers are more than that, they are also teachers, listeners, “boo boo” fixers, shoulders to cry on, comedians when you need a laugh, homework helpers, coaches, grill masters, and more.
Founder Michael Lewis’s father was and still is a very important part of his life. A retired Moravian minister, Reverend Henry Lewis instilled in his son to have a passion for others. Michael learned from his father to care for all people, to have patience with others and to help those in need. Those beliefs have built the foundation for the culture of Lewis & Daggett and in its outreach to the community.
Additionally, managing partner David Daggett was greatly influenced by his father. He watched his father succeed in so many areas of his life, most importantly in his role of father. This is a role that he honored by teaching his children the importance of a strong work ethic, consistency, valuing others and respect. David continues to follow the example his father set by following the principles that his father taught him.
When a father is involved he is letting his child know that he cares. Quality time involves the child being the center of attention — that the child is most important. Something else happens when fathers spend time with their children; it brings out the child in them.
Imagine being a daughter and having your dad suddenly begins dancing with you. For no reason at all and in front of everyone at the mall, he begins to waltz with you, or perhaps shaking the hands of the store mannequins. Shannon, a legal assistant with Lewis & Daggett shared this story and revealed what a priceless memory it is for her that her father was so fun-loving and spontaneous. Again, it may have just seemed like silly times, but her father was showing her how to have fun and embrace life with joy and laughter. She is thankful for so many memories.
Fathers are the makers of many memories. Some of these memories are silly times, but most often people reflect about the lessons that their fathers taught them. Fathers teach principles which help their children to grow up and become responsible adults. Life lessons are often taught by example, inclusive of work ethics. Karen, the law office administrator for our firm, remembers many times hearing “if you don’t work, you don’t eat.” Her father instilled in her and her siblings a strong worth ethic; however, not simply by his words but by his everyday day life of hard work. Often, even in her father’s silence, he spoke volumes for he was a man who lived what he believed. She is grateful for time spent with her father who taught her so much.
To be a great father entails involvement, consistency, awareness and nurturing. Being there and being an example are the best gifts a father can give. While fathers do not parent the same as mothers, their contribution is essential to their children. On this Father’s Day we recognize the great importance of fathers in all of our lives.